So what are purposeful moments? A better question is, how does a moment become purposeful? The answer is simple; when we take a moment to recognize it as such. Everyone of us live our days being kind to, and being supportive of people in our lives, and people we come into contact with throughout the day. We call our friends, our parents and our children. We tell our partners that we love them. We call friends and wish them a happy birthday. We hold the door for strangers. We ask the person answering the customer service line how their day is going. Imagine being just a bit more mindful of those exchanges, and the impact they may have, while they are happening. Imagine actually thinking of what we love about our parents, our children and our friends, when we speak with them. What would it be like if every now and then we told them that? Those exchanges, that we have every day and throughout the day, would certainly be more meaningful, and yes, purposeful. And here is the best part; they do not have to be big things. Because little things are big things. They all matter, more than we know.
Here is my personal favorite. Everyone holds the door for another when they are following right behind. Try holding the door when the person is 20 feet away. When I do I watch the person walk faster, saying, “Thank you, thank you.” Then say to him, “Don’t walk so fast, you are minimizing a pleasurable experience for me. I enjoy holding the door for you.” I love getting a wrong number on my phone. The caller will say, “I’m sorry, I have the wrong number.” I say, “Don’t be sorry; you’re probably a really nice person and I got to say hello to you.” Corny? For sure. But the message is not. One time, a man who sounded a bit older than me stopped and said, “Actually, I am a very nice man.” It was adorable. Bringing just a bit more humanity to a rather quick and distant exchange is important, and yes, purposeful.